Author: Kuromu101

University student. Studying English language, civilization and literature. Future journalist student. I am always interested in learning new things. During my free time, I usually enjoy playing chess, reading a book, listening to music, or watch movies as well as videos on Youtube.

Gay marriage: finally legal across the United States!

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We turn a new page in history: Same-sex marriages are now legal across the United States. 

The question of same-sex marriages has been a recurrent problem in the United States, which was amplified by the fact that the U.S is divided into several states — meaning that each state will have its own opinion concerning a matter (which was the case for same-sex marriages!). From 2004 to 2008, same-sex marriage was only allowed in Massachusetts. However, more and more states started to allow same-sex marriages over the years, until it finally reached its peak in 2015 — where same-sex marriage became legal across the entire country.

Such an event does not miss the opportunity to please the population:

 

 

 

I’m glad that they are enjoyed by the resolution of a problem that was present in the american society for many years, but I have another problem in mind: Do we really deserve to get married to someone? 

Whether you are talking about a marriage between two people of opposite sex or same-sex marriage doesn’t matter to me; they are all humans. What matters to me is whether or not people deserve to get married.

As a matter of fact, we see many people getting married but we also see many of them getting divorced. Why? Because they suddenly don’t feel the same kind of love they felt back when they fell in love with their partner.

Some people take marriage too lightly. They get married on a whim and end up getting divorced at some point because they either cheated on their partner, or because they feel like it “doesn’t work anymore”.

All we end up with are sad children and the involvement of money in the matter — when a marriage is supposed to be about love only.

Marriage is a good thing, but it should not be accomplished in order to be happy but instead should be done in order to build an eternal form of happiness — as many couples are more happy than those who married someone to be happy.

Marriage should be thought over and over again before making a decision. Marrying someone means giving your life and your everything to that person. Once you get married, there should be no one in your eyes other than your partner — for the rest of your life.

However, seeing how many divorces happen around the world (my parents having divorced themselves) made me start to wonder if we are able to get married.

To get married, we need to have a true understanding of love. But even if we are able to understand different languages, different cultures or even difficult books, we are unable to understand what love truly is. All we have are simply our own hypotheses on the matter.

As a result of this, I believe that being happy about same-sex marriage should be done after we finally understand love and make of marriage something we can finally be proud of — which would also reduce the number of people divorcing.

Humans need to understand each other first before being able to build something together.

5 tips to study efficiently

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Studying is not always easy, especially when we can be easily distracted by our surrounding. Here are five tips to study more efficiently.

1. Find a quiet place. That’s something you’ll hear all the time, but that’s because it’s true. If you want to study properly, you have to close yourself from the rest of the world. Silence is a must. Listening to music while studying is a bad habit and can lead to poor performances (trust me!) — you’ll certainly end up memorizing the song better than your lessons, and that song will haunt your mind during your exams.

2. Study with others, but study properly. If you are one of those people who can’t study in a quiet place (don’t worry, it’s the case for several people), you can call some of your friends over to study. Studying with people is a good way to memorize your lessons more efficiently, that’s true… but only if you study properly! Calling your friends over to study is useless if you just end up messing around. Avoid those who are not motivated. Avoid those with whom you’d just mess around. If you don’t feel like studying with your friends is not an option, you can try to ask help from one of your fellow classmates.

3. Don’t study from day to night. Studying from day to night is a mistake that should be avoided. When you try to learn too many things at the same time, there is a high chance you won’t remember more than 10% of them — and they will only be fragments from different lessons. My advice would be to study for 1 to 3 hours, then take a break of 30 minutes to 1 hour. During that break, just relax. Play video games. Read a book. Listen to music. Take a nap. Do what you want to do, all you have to do is to enjoy your break. Once it is over, spend 15-30 minutes to remember what you learned before the break. Afterwards, study again for 1 to 3 hours. Do it as many times as you want, and according to your preferences.

4. Do not force yourself to study. Humans have never been able to show great performances when forced to do something. The same goes for studies. You may have some days where you want to study, and some days where you don’t feel like doing so. When you’re in the latter case, don’t force yourself to study. As a matter of fact, if you force yourself to study, you will have a hard time memorizing anything and you will eventually get frustrated. So before studying, never forget to do one thing: get motivated.

5. Don’t forget to have fun. Have fun when studying. If you only think about having good grades or if you’re afraid of failing, studying will be painful. To study more efficiently, you need to turn your studies into something fun. Whether you want to make a song based on a lesson or play a game to memorize some notions, learn in a fun way and enjoy studying.

If work was reduced to a simple word

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While looking through the Daily Post, I came across an interesting prompt: “If money were out of the equation, would you still work? If yes, why, and how much? If not, what would you do with your free time?”

Well if money were out of the question, I don’t see any reason to keep working. Well I never had a chance to get a real job, as the economy of the country where I live is rather tough and people usually ask for specific skills — I wish they weren’t so picky. However, money is the only reason why I would ever get a job.

Some people would certainly stop working because they would finally be able to realize their wildest dreams and fulfill their desires, while some others would keep working — because they built bonds with their colleagues, because they don’t want their life to change, or simply because they would end up getting bored at home. Humans usually need to socialize after all. That’s a fact.

In my case, if it was not for money, I wouldn’t bother myself with getting a job. Don’t misunderstand me, I’m not that lazy (at least as far as I know).

Instead of getting a job, I would fully devote myself to more important matters — helping people, traveling around the world to see different cultures, and changing the world.

Having a family, having a decent job, earning enough money to live comfortably, or even having enough money to buy something I really want… Those things don’t matter to me. I only wish to earn a lot of money in order to make of the world a better place.

However,  changing the world is not an easy task. With my current amount of knowledge, I am aware I wouldn’t be able to accomplish my goal. The free time I would get from not having a job would be redirected to the time I would spend on studying, as well as working towards my goal.

I am the kind of person who doesn’t do anything unless it leads somewhere (how boring!) but that’s also the reason why I don’t have to worry about going astray: No matter how long or twisted the road is, I know where I want to go.

The need to speak up

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After taking a look at some of the blogs I follow, I came across an interesting post made by TED (Technology, Entertainment, Design). The post was about a website called StoryCorps, a place where you can interview and record the story of other people.

Some go as far as taking what TED defined as an audio selfie. An audio selfie consists of interviewing oneself to share a personal story.

As a result of that, I went to take a look at StoryCorps and found some quite interesting stories — a father telling his daughter how much he would work for her education, or a woman saying how she had to announce the death of a young teenager to his mother.

According to TED, some of the stories they receive are quite personal — which made me wonder: Why are people willing to give away such pieces of information about their lives? 

The answer is simple: people are willing to share the story of their respective lives because they wish to be understood.

One of the main wishes of mankind is to be understood by our family, our friends, and our neighbours. Unfortunately, our current society, our actions, as well as our own life in general are based on a succession of misunderstandings. The reason for that is simple: humans are unable to state clearly what they have in mind; to express their feelings truly.

Another reason causing misunderstandings is the fact that we emphasize our differences. Instead of trying to look at our common points, we look at our differences. More than that, people are encouraged to be different.

Be aware, I’m not saying that being different is a bad thing and should be avoided. But we are being different in the wrong way. Being different should not be a way to separate ourselves from others. Being different should be a way for us to help each other when we don’t have the required strength to do something. Being different should bring us closer instead of tearing us apart.

And one of the ways to bring us closer is to speak up.

Eurovision 2015: Sweden wins!

The winner of the Eurovision Song Contest of 2015 is… Sweden!

 

For those who don’t know what the Eurovision Song Contest is, I would sum it up as being a contest where members/countries invited submit a song that will be performed on live tv and radio, before voting for other countries to determine the best/most popular song in the contest. What’s more, the contest is broadcast every year.

A friend told me about the Eurovision contest for several days, but the idea of watching it didn’t cross my mind even once. I admit forgetting about it until I went on Youtube and saw that I could watch the live. I am not particularly interested in music but since it seemed to pick the interest of many people, I decided to give it a try.

I was quite surprised by what I saw.

Imagine being transported in a world shaped by music, a world that changes its colours depending on the song you would sing. That’ s what the Eurovision contest made me feel like. Each country sang their song one after another, turning the scene into an empty world that would be shaped by their performance — different use of colours, different special effects, different use of effects.

However, if the scene in itself was a piece of art, what truly made the difference was the song each country chose. All the singers were pretty good, but some of them were astonishing. Not only did they have a powerful voice, but they could reach the heart of the audience and fill it with a wave of feelings — both sad and happy.

At the end of the 27 songs displayed during the contest, the votes took place. Even if Russia, Italy and Sweden were fighting for the first place, Sweden ended up grabbing the victory proudly — they were declared winner before the votes were over.

On the other hand, we had countries who didn’t get many votes, or didn’t get any vote at all. But does that mean they should be disappointed? No. Being able to perform in the Eurovision contest is already an accomplishment in itself. Going to the Grand Final is an even greater accomplishment. Being on the stage in front of 40 countries is an accomplishment in itself. Representing your country is an accomplishment in itself.

Eurovision Song Contest 2015 is the first Eurovision contest I watched, but I will definitely watch the next one in 2016, hoping to come back into this wonderful world shaped by singers: the world of music.