understanding

Gay marriage: finally legal across the United States!

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We turn a new page in history: Same-sex marriages are now legal across the United States. 

The question of same-sex marriages has been a recurrent problem in the United States, which was amplified by the fact that the U.S is divided into several states — meaning that each state will have its own opinion concerning a matter (which was the case for same-sex marriages!). From 2004 to 2008, same-sex marriage was only allowed in Massachusetts. However, more and more states started to allow same-sex marriages over the years, until it finally reached its peak in 2015 — where same-sex marriage became legal across the entire country.

Such an event does not miss the opportunity to please the population:

 

 

 

I’m glad that they are enjoyed by the resolution of a problem that was present in the american society for many years, but I have another problem in mind: Do we really deserve to get married to someone? 

Whether you are talking about a marriage between two people of opposite sex or same-sex marriage doesn’t matter to me; they are all humans. What matters to me is whether or not people deserve to get married.

As a matter of fact, we see many people getting married but we also see many of them getting divorced. Why? Because they suddenly don’t feel the same kind of love they felt back when they fell in love with their partner.

Some people take marriage too lightly. They get married on a whim and end up getting divorced at some point because they either cheated on their partner, or because they feel like it “doesn’t work anymore”.

All we end up with are sad children and the involvement of money in the matter — when a marriage is supposed to be about love only.

Marriage is a good thing, but it should not be accomplished in order to be happy but instead should be done in order to build an eternal form of happiness — as many couples are more happy than those who married someone to be happy.

Marriage should be thought over and over again before making a decision. Marrying someone means giving your life and your everything to that person. Once you get married, there should be no one in your eyes other than your partner — for the rest of your life.

However, seeing how many divorces happen around the world (my parents having divorced themselves) made me start to wonder if we are able to get married.

To get married, we need to have a true understanding of love. But even if we are able to understand different languages, different cultures or even difficult books, we are unable to understand what love truly is. All we have are simply our own hypotheses on the matter.

As a result of this, I believe that being happy about same-sex marriage should be done after we finally understand love and make of marriage something we can finally be proud of — which would also reduce the number of people divorcing.

Humans need to understand each other first before being able to build something together.

The need to speak up

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After taking a look at some of the blogs I follow, I came across an interesting post made by TED (Technology, Entertainment, Design). The post was about a website called StoryCorps, a place where you can interview and record the story of other people.

Some go as far as taking what TED defined as an audio selfie. An audio selfie consists of interviewing oneself to share a personal story.

As a result of that, I went to take a look at StoryCorps and found some quite interesting stories — a father telling his daughter how much he would work for her education, or a woman saying how she had to announce the death of a young teenager to his mother.

According to TED, some of the stories they receive are quite personal — which made me wonder: Why are people willing to give away such pieces of information about their lives? 

The answer is simple: people are willing to share the story of their respective lives because they wish to be understood.

One of the main wishes of mankind is to be understood by our family, our friends, and our neighbours. Unfortunately, our current society, our actions, as well as our own life in general are based on a succession of misunderstandings. The reason for that is simple: humans are unable to state clearly what they have in mind; to express their feelings truly.

Another reason causing misunderstandings is the fact that we emphasize our differences. Instead of trying to look at our common points, we look at our differences. More than that, people are encouraged to be different.

Be aware, I’m not saying that being different is a bad thing and should be avoided. But we are being different in the wrong way. Being different should not be a way to separate ourselves from others. Being different should be a way for us to help each other when we don’t have the required strength to do something. Being different should bring us closer instead of tearing us apart.

And one of the ways to bring us closer is to speak up.